Dr. Glasser’s first popular book, “Reality Therapy,” published in 1965, sold 1.5 million copies. It became the foundation for a series of how-to books about resolving emotional and mental problems by accepting responsibility for them. By avoiding the urge to blame others, or to relive past hurts, Dr. Glasser asserted, people could find happiness essentially by choosing behaviors that improved their relationships, and increased their chances for happiness.
“We choose everything we do, including the misery we feel,” he wrote in a 1998 book called “Choice Theory: A New Psychology of Personal Freedom.” “Other people can neither make us miserable nor make us happy.” He added, “Choice theory teaches that we are much more in control of our lives than we realize.”
Dr. Glasser’s 1965 best seller and a 1969 sequel, “Schools Without Failure,” in which he tailored his ideas to the classroom, were among many books published in the 1960s by psychotherapists who proposed alternatives to the Freudian model of prolonged, deep-dredging psychoanalysis, which they rejected. Dr. Glasser’s approach, like many of the others, shifted power from the analyst to the patient, emphasizing the ability of individuals to shape their own lives rather than be shaped by personal history.
But unlike some new therapies, Dr. Glasser’s was emphatically drug-free and built on traditions of self-reliance and some core principles, among them:
■ That the only person one controls in the world is oneself.
■ That the effort to change others is doomed and, worse, is the actual cause of most emotional problems.
■ That to meet the most profound human need — “to love and be loved,” as Dr. Glasser put it — people must repair strained relations with their family, friends and co-workers by adjusting the one variable within their control: their own behavior.
Dr. Glasser trained therapists and others mainly through the William Glasser Institute, a nonprofit organization he founded outside Chicago. In his book “Choice Theory,” he summarized its strategy as helping patients and schoolchildren to shift their view of reality fundamentally — from one where behavior is controlled externally by coercion, to one where individuals control their own behavior in an atmosphere of “love, friendship, negotiation and trust.”
Teachers, along with marriage therapists and drug counselors, have been enthusiastic proponents of Dr. Glasser’s approach. Several thousand teachers have received training from the institute, according to a spokesman. And about 20 small or medium-size school districts have adopted his theories, receiving the institute’s imprimatur as “Glasser Quality Schools.”
In “Schools Without Failure,” Dr. Glasser urged teachers to abandon coercive methods like class ranking and punitive grading. To help children assume responsibility for their own behavior and academic record, he said, teachers should develop “caring relationships” with students, sign contracts binding both teacher and pupil to certain standards of behavior and performance, connect all lessons to everyday experiences and never give a failing grade.
“There is no real reason to fail a child,” Dr. Glasser said in a 1988 interview. “Once children start failing, they begin to believe that they can’t do anything. They give up.”
Dr. Glasser had many critics. Some were skeptical that children could assume so much responsibility for themselves. Others objected to his assertion that Reality Therapy was useful in treating serious mental illnesses like schizophrenia.
Asked in a 2002 interview whether his theories were naïve, as some critics contended, Dr. Glasser said naïveté was no sin if the methods worked, and he insisted that they did.
“I am naïve,” he said, but added, “People listen to me.”
William Glasser was born on May 11, 1925, and grew up in Cleveland, the son of Betty and Ben Glasser. His father worked as a watch and clock repairman. He was a painfully shy young man, he told interviewers, and felt obligated by his family’s modest means to seek an education that would provide a good job.
But after earning a degree in chemical engineering in 1945 from what is now Case Western Reserve University, Dr. Glasser found himself so unhappy in his work that he returned to the university a few years later to study psychology and earn a second bachelor’s degree.
He earned a medical degree from Case Western in 1953, completed his residency at a Veterans Administration hospital in Los Angeles, and took his first job as a staff psychiatrist at a reform school for girls in Ventura, Calif., where he found many of the case studies that he later used in Reality Therapy.
Besides his wife, Dr. Glasser is survived by a son, Martin; a daughter, Dr. Alice Glasser; a brother, Henry; a sister, Janet; nine grandchildren and two great-grandchildren. His first wife, Naomi, died in 1992. A son, Joseph, died in 1998.
In a 1984 interview with The Los Angeles Times, Dr. Glasser said he formulated his basic ideas while serving his residency at the V.A. hospital.
“What they taught, in effect, was that you aren’t responsible for your miserable problems because you are the victim of factors and circumstances beyond your control,” he said. “I objected to that. My thrust was that patients have to be worked with as if they have choices to make. My question is always, ‘What are you going to do about your life, beginning today?’ ”
At the end of his residency, he added, “I was thrown off the staff.”